What Relationship Experts Get Totally Wrong....

What relationship experts are missing out

Hey there, fabulous readers! Today, let’s talk about what relationship experts might be missing out on in their advice-giving endeavors. As a CEO, I’ve faced my fair share of naysayers claiming I was “too bossy” or “too masculine” to find love. Can you believe it? Love was supposedly not in the cards for me because I was deemed “hard” to love. Oh, the audacity!

I’ve spent countless hours listening to all these so-called relationship gurus and their testimonials, and I can’t help but wonder: when did white men in their early 30s become the authority on relationships? Seriously, when did this happen, and why are we putting so much stock in their opinions?

Now, let’s dive into what they get wrong. They keep harping on about the other person’s behavior, listing qualities you need to find, teaching you how to communicate better, decipher love languages, and all that jazz. Don’t get me wrong; those things are important, but they’re missing the pièce de résistance: Have you dealt with your early pain point?

What is Your Early Pain Point?

You know, that deep-seated wound that’s in control of your emotions, pulling people towards you so it can finally heal. It’s like a codependent vortex influencing how you love and perceive love. This vortex was established with blame and shame before you even hit double digits, and guess what? It’s totally running the show.

Don’t be fooled; you’re likely dating someone else’s early pain point too, unless they’ve done the healing work. And let me tell you, if they haven’t addressed their core root pain, emotionally, they might as well be stuck in kindergarten — yup, that’s right, emotionally 0–10 years old! No wonder things get messy.

Yet here we are, with well-intentioned psychotherapists dishing out advice on how to understand your partner better, or how to “get the guy.” Seriously, who even came up with that notion? But hey, people eat it up because it’s so much easier to focus on fixing someone else rather than facing our own issues.

The sad truth is, these false promises have been around for ages, stemming from an egoic, male-dominated logic that places the power outside of ourselves. They make us believe that change is out there and that the love we crave is just a swipe away. It’s a never-ending cycle, and each generation falls for the same ol’ trap, expecting different results.

The real deal

So here’s the deal: If you haven’t dealt with that early pain point, chances are you keep attracting the same kind of partners to replay that storyline buried deep within your subconscious. It’s like a record stuck on repeat, and it’s dictating your emotions and relationships. Now, if you’re yearning for that epic, soul-stirring, mind-blowing love (and trust me, I know it’s possible — I’ve got that in my life!), you’ll need a whole new playbook. Sorry, but the conventional wisdom just won’t cut it.

Let’s take a stand against the tired old patriarchy playbook and rewrite our own rules for love! Step one: Heal yourself. Therapy might not do the trick, as it often skims the surface. I’m talking about true, magical healing where you breathe in love and know deep down that you are loved. No hesitations, no doubts, just pure love.